About Me

Name: anonymous
Age: early 30s
Orientation: straight
Marital Status: married, kids
Years since first SAA meeting: 9 or 10
Longest sober period: 3 months officially, possible 6 months unofficially
Addict profile: chronic relapser
Addiction type: avoiding reality, numbing pain

Inner Circle Behaviours:
current:
1) seeking, and meeting sex partners on the internet, usually lying about marital status
2) masturbating during work hours, masturbating in bed next to sleeping wife and/or son
bottom lines:
no sex outside of marriage - including touching another woman's private parts or kissing on the lips (patting friend's wife on the bum is ok)
no masturbation in inappropriate situations
no sex crimes (peeping, touching)

middle circle behaviours
visiting a dating website
looking at pornography
non-work activities on computer during work hours
spending time on internet without agreement from wife
spending more than 30 minutes on internet entertainment twice per day
texting an acting out partner
meeting one on one with another woman without wife's knowledge
sleeping in bed with a woman besides wife

outer circle behaviours:
masturbation in locked office or bathroom outside work hours - must clean up semen
household chores
spending time with son
blogging
exercise - swimming, slow martial arts, walking, sports
household paperwork
gardening
carpentry/home improvement
reading for career
reading for pleasure
recovery work, step work

steps completed:
step one - completed with 2 different sponsors and a step group
step two - completed with 1 sponsor and 1 step group
step four - completed with 1 sponsor (?) and 1 step group
step five - completed with 1 step group
step six - completed with 1 step group (?)
step seven - completed with 1 step group (?)